Generally lying in a relationship is frowned upon, the severity of lying is added to the lack of principles. When you lie in a relationship you hurt the other person and that is what I find is unethical. I don't think it's immoral to lie to get out of an unpleasant situation. People lie all the time that they are busy getting out of certain plans. If something is so unbearable that you just can't do it, why not save yourself some heartache and tell a lie. (Like having dinner with your in-laws) If the lie does not harm others, then I believe it is not immoral. You can avoid telling lies by simply saying you don't want to do something, but when all else fails it's nice to have a lie to fall back on. 4. It is unethical to lie during a breakup to “soften the blow.” If a breakage occurs it means it was caused by something important. After every breakup there is room for growth in both parties. If the person ending the relationship doesn't provide honest answers about why the relationship is ending, no real growth can occur. For example, if the couple breaks up because the partner is too jealous and clingy; this is something that could be worked on for future relationships. By lying during a breakup you are being selfish just to try not to seem rude and hurt them more even if they don't know it