One aspect that I think is a perfect example of this is the whole style, makeup and hairstyle that she emphasizes. In her essay, Tannen is the one who “marks” women, making judgments about their appearance or style choices, while commenting that men don't seem to care. Yes, women's appearance is criticized more often than men, but who criticizes women? In my experience, I rarely see men comment on what a woman is wearing. Most of the time it is women who criticize other women based on the brands they wear, the makeup they have on and the hairstyle they choose. In other words, I don't see how, nor do I think it's right, for Tannen to blame men. Yes, as he points out, men can choose to dress "purposefully" by wearing certain styles, such as hair, clothing, and footwear, but they often choose not to. In this case, again, I rarely see a man comment on another man's appearance or mark men. Often it is women who criticize men or whatever