As we grow older, the one thing we have to learn to accept is that we all die. After coming to this realization, we set up an elaborate burial ritual; to say our last goodbyes to the person we loved and will one day join. People come to the ceremony to mourn the loss. As the ceremony progresses, mourners find themselves thinking about many things. Some people might think about the good times they had with the person in the coffin, while others might think about how unfair the death was. Despite what everyone thinks, the one thing prevalent in their minds is that they are all in that room waiting to be the one in the coffin. While in this morbid waiting room things like: physically visible emotions, age and relationship between the living and the recently dead can provide clues as to what the bereaved person is thinking. No one is ever consistent in what they are thinking. In the situation of a funeral there are four main thoughts (among others) that cross the minds of those present. First they think: "Why did this happen?"; Then they think, “How soon will my turn be?”; Soon they begin to remember the good times. Then their minds will wonder what they will have to do later. What they think and where they start is often determined by the relationship they had with the deceased. The question of why is very often the first, if not the only question that arises in the minds of close friends and relatives. These friends and family can be male or female of any age. Their loud sobs and gasps while avoiding looking at the coffin can make this obvious. When will it be my turn? is often the first question that comes to mind for some family friends. Thoughts on this matter may vary based on the age of the deceased. When the deceased is young, the mourner will find the question mixed with feelings of injustice. The people who spend most of their time pondering this thought can be male or female of any age (usually ages 15 and up). These people can be noticed when they shake their heads and try to hold back tears; something that emerges more easily when they look at the coffin. If the funeral is for an older person, people will find the previously mentioned question accompanied by the thought that that person was close to my age.